Bouncing Back from interview rejection
There is nothing as disheartening as going to a job interview, feeling terrific when you walk out the door, and then never hearing anything from the company. Well, perhaps that is not quite true, as hearing from the company that you have not been successful is an even drearier situation.
However, hearing a “no” from an employer is not always a bad thing. It certainly isn’t a bad thing if it becomes a lesson in how to more successfully manage your next interview.
This isn’t about seeing a glass half full rather than half empty; it is about assessing how you are presenting yourself, your strengths and skills and your ability to do the job that is being offered. Sometimes, it is easy to overlook the little mistakes made in an interview that we may brush off, but the interviewer across the table may see as red flags.
Seeing the World Through Your Own Lens
There is a root problem with trying to assess why you heard a “no” instead of a “yes” after what you thought was a successful and positive interview. It is often not you as an individual doing something intentional; it is something that is just part of our human nature.
We see our actions through our own understanding of intentions. Unfortunately, the interviewer across the table doesn’t have the same lens, in fact, he or she may have a completely different lens. What we think is a witty comeback may be perceived as a rude comment or a disparaging statement. While that may have been the farthest thing from our intent, it is not our intentions, but how that message is received, that matters.
So, with that in mind, how can you truly see your actions from another’s point of view? How can you replay the interview in a way that allows you to spot areas where your good intentions may not have been received in the same way? How can you learn to do something different when you are not even sure what the something is?
The Coaching Solution
At Career Mums, we offer relaunch coaching for our clients. As business coaches, we can use that knowledge in several different ways to prepare for interviews, to help to develop your return to work plan and to help you to evaluate areas where you may want to try something different with your next interview.
Coaching is a very personal interaction. Coaches are facilitators of learning and growth. We are also mentors and supporters. Often in the role of providing opportunities for growth, we ask the challenging questions that allow you to develop a method of preparing for and completing interviews. With our coaches, you will work together to create a return to work plan and a method of tackling the challenges you have identified in reaching your employment goals.
Debriefing and Discovery
Debriefing after an interview is an ideal way to obtain professional, supportive feedback from a business coach. As a confidential and private discussion, it is a place to feel comfortable in discussing the challenges you experienced with a trained individual who is there to guide, support and encourage.
Through debriefing after both a “good” and a “bad” interview, there is the opportunity to discover what works and what doesn’t, and then design a strategy to focus on what works and get rid of what doesn’t.
The business coach, with an unbiased and honest line of questioning, can help you to determine where you want to improve or what you think worked well. Coaching also allows you to try out new ideas on how to answer questions, how to talk about your strengths and skills, and even how to discuss challenges that may create discomfort in the interview setting.
A good example of discomfort for most parents is the discussion of gaps in their CV. Both Mums and Dads returning to work after a parenting break may face a barrier based on the amount of time they have been out of the work. It seems, in most research, that gaps of over 6 months are more problematic than those of less than six months.
Knowing how to address this issue is just one advantage of using a coach. It is possible to develop an answer to this question that will acknowledge the parenting time break, but also highlight how you have continued to work on your career.
Working on your career and professional growth could include a home business you started or part-time work completed, even if not in your chosen professional field. Additionally, you may have taken some training, done some online courses, or perhaps provided some professional consultancy services.
Learning from a “no” is a way to turn what is certainly not a positive into an opportunity for growth. The key is to see the lesson and make changes, focusing on your strengths and abilities without becoming disheartened in the process of finding a job. After all your ideal job could be around the corner.
If you are looking to nail this process and work on areas to improve for your next interview then get in touch with Nishi or Sally from Career-Mums Partnership who would be more than happy to talk things through.